“Influence of Western Culture” they say. Agreed, but when it comes to fashion and updated trends, Nepal has been marching forward. Changing from Daura surwal to Jeans and shirt, Guniyo cholo and patuki to skirts. Fashion is more about how you carry yourself and how presentable you are.
Classy, cool, sexy, and other words are just a nickname to call you fashionistas. In context of Nepal, Western dressing sense has effected the female population in a large ratio. Summer wears, spring wears and other different wears has enhanced the beauty around while some overwhelming wears have created some outrageous issues. Asking people randomly about their opinions on current women fashion and the conclusion collected was biased. Our culture believes that “ Shyness is the ornament of a women.” That clearly protests against revealing clothes worn these days. On the cultural point of view, it is right but on our perspective, being a girl or woman, we are free to wear what we want. Some carry it well while some don’t. But this doesn’t allow any one to judge and pass comment to embarrass us in public.
On the other hand, few girls out there believe that, the more we reveal the more attractive we are. No. We’re not. We wear what we are comfortable in. We dress as per our comfort not because we have to impress a bunch of people. Question regarding the outburst of tight-fitting wardrobes where kept on the networking sites and answer varied according to their concept of how they idolize a woman. Some of them gaped at the question while some gave a satisfying answer. Some chanted the shyness is the ornament quote while others didn’t even bother to read.
Rape is not an award; it is violence. Nobody wishes to be raped. Nobody wants his or her soul to be torn and burned.
Contrariwise, some said that the clothes worn by women these days are frantic. She is doing this because she wants to be raped; she is doing that because she wants to be raped. This is the latest “thaygo” being applied on girls by girls. Rape is not an award; it is violence. Nobody wishes to be raped. Nobody wants his or her soul to be torn and burned. Everyone is like, “Men should be taught how to respect women”. The illiterate rate should be decreased by passing knowledge onto their brains and so many piles of blames wrapped in shag and placed on each man’s head. “It’s all about superiority and inferiority” some say.
But girls, ask yourself, haven’t a women commented on your attire? Haven’t you seen girls looking at you and giggle just because you stand out in a crowd ? Of course you have. Then why just blame male? Books don’t teach us manners but our environment does. The culture we are growing up is narrow where we are the inferiors. Providing education is not the only answer to every problem it may raise a certain level of awareness but it is not going to solve the egocentric problems.
Then why just blame male? Books don’t teach us manners but our environment does. The culture we are growing up is narrow where we are the inferiors.
Girls don’t respect girls, woman don’t respect woman then how are we suppose to teach men that we should be equally treated and respected. Let’s start from us. Let’s not stare at other girls and if we find them beautiful then let’s just smile at them. Clothes aren’t provocative because if they were then mannequins would be raped too.
Sexual violence is the result of wild desires that they never learnt to tame and blaming it on woman is one of the many societal values that we human being have. We can’t teach how to process their internal organs but we surely can tutor ourselves. Changes starts from ourselves, so let’s not make our species (woman) feel uncomfortable and if we see them being violated let’s stand by them.